Yamcha epicly failing. Dragon Ball Z

We fail everyday. To me, life is literally a bunch of failures we have strung together and just made the best of the situation. We made cars and after about 100 years of industry we finally admit they are killing the earth. We made factories to make the cars and finally admit they are not helping the earth either. Ok, maybe those examples are too broad. On all of our life’s journeys we failed at taking tests, telling a person how we feel, fixing something, etc… We all have failed, and it’s ok. Some of us are defined by those failures and some of us push past them. 

Definition: Lack of success

     The omission of expected or required action

     The action or state of not functioning 

How and why we fail

Everyday we make goals. Goals that are big, small, daily goals and goals for years from now. In our planning of our goals it is hard to compensate for the x variables that happen in our lives. Example: Illness, natural disasters, vehicle breakdown, and just the random mishaps of life. We also make these impossible goals for ourselves without knowing the full scope of the intended goal. 

I used to want to be remembered well after I’m gone like C. S. Lewis and J. R. R. Tolkien. I write and write, all the time. I have over thirty posts/blogs but I have at least 80 stories, concepts, possible stories and current updates of classic tales. “So J, why didn’t you put them out there for the world to see?” Well I feel I have failed in so many other areas that I would also fail in being an author. The only enemy to our goals is the limits we put on ourselves. We fail because we believe we will fail. 

Even winners fail

I know it sounds crazy but winners are sometimes the biggest losers. Now, the way I’m defining “winner” is somebody who has made a goal and achieved it. What you don’t know is the mistakes that person made to achieve those goals. How many failures along the way did he/she have before getting to the goal. Benjamin Franklin once said: I didn’t fail the test, I just found 100 ways to do it wrong

Luke Skywalker Losing his hand while fighting Darth Vader. Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back

Those idols who we look up to, you know the people that we put on a pedestal, I see them in a totally different light. I see a person who sacrificed and had a couple of small failures, BUT stayed focused on the main goal. 

Why we make it a negative word

Humans, at our root, know we can do better. We lash out and get annoyed because we know everything we are currently doing has a better alternative. I feel we use this word “Failure” to humble ourselves almost like a way to keep us grounded. We as a species find comradery in our failings. Just spit balling, but, I think the set backs, disappointment and the feeling of failing, over time, made it such a negative thing. Like sorrow, failure is needed to move on and become better. 

Kirk losing the Enterprise after being tricked to go and “save” people on another planet. Star Trek: Beyond

I love when movies use the phrase, “Failure is not an option”. To me it’s an interesting phrase. What happens if you do fail? We always ask this question, (to ourselves), mentally but we feel like we can’t fail. I mean we should never strive to fail, BUT, we should always be ready just in case. If you do fail it’s not the end of the world it’s the best lesson you will ever have.    

Eno Cordova: Failure, is not the end. It is a necessary part of the path. Hope, will always survive in those who continue to fight. Star Wars: Jedi Fallen Order

Published by Jamar Reed

I'm just a Father who likes to write. Hopefully my words will mean something in a sea of countless others.

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